ports/mail/spamd not greylisting correctly

[snowcrash]

> First, my setup - (NB, all servers mentioned are running
> 6-STABLE)

...

> # options for pf and spamd
> pf_enable="YES"
> pfspamd_enable="YES"
> pfspamd_flags="-g -v -p 8025"
> pfspamlogd_enable="YES"

I currently run FreeBSD 6.2-RELEASE-p7.

Checking,

  grep PORTVERSION= /usr/ports/mail/spamd/Makefile
  PORTVERSION=    4.1.2

iirc, @ the change from spamd v3x->v4x, the required rc.conf options changed.

check in your startup file "/usr/local/etc/rc.d/obspamd", and you'll
see they're now, e.g.,

 obspamd_enable="YES"
 obspamd_flags="-v -l 127.0.0.1 -b -4 -s5 -S15 -w1 -c 300 -B 200 -h
mail.mydomain.com -n tarpit"
 obspamlogd_enable="YES"
 obspamlogd_flags=""

hth