Re: "Why I am retiring from contributing to FreeBSD"

--> Is my lie white, or not ?

It seems to me that you like very much to talk about communication
strategies. Well,I like this,too. So.
In my humble opinion assertive communication is better than ambiguity and
strategic silence,even if it is not always valid. I imagine that
it is valid against someone who has his/her feelings hurted for some
reason. As I said, a flexible attitude is crucial in these cases. One part
can firmly affirm the validity of the choices made, on the other, they
could show some glimmer of openness toward those who have his/her feelings
hurted maybe because the reasons for the dispute haven't been taken into
consideration at all. It is normal if someone helped a lot over the years
and wants some kind of recognition for this. A recognition of the hard work
done is still valid even if he/she worked as a volunteer. Human
feelings,desires sometimes follow different rules than the mind rules. We
are talking about the "heart" rules here. Everyone of us has a narcissistic
core that needs to be nourished.

On Fri, Jan 2, 2026 at 7:10 AM Graham Perrin <grahamperrin@gmail.com> wrote:

> In an earlier email, I chose to intentionally lie about something.
>
> Some readers will be familiar with this phrase: "The truth, the whole
> truth, and nothing but the truth.".
>
> We have, now: a non-consensual desire for truth and transparency, plus a
> statement that is demonstrably false ― and the truth, a single click
> away, should have been obvious to at least one person who has actively
> contributed to the discussion.
>
> Yet, no-one offered a correction that is now relevant.
>
> Was the silence: opaqueness (less than the whole truth), ignorance
> (possibly wilful), ennui, or some combination of those three things?
>
> Is my lie white, or not?
>
> How many people even know the meaning of the word consensus?
>
> Ladies and gentlemen of the jury: please be seated. Be careful what you
> wish for.
>
> ----
>
> On 02/01/2026 01:24, vermaden wrote:
>
> > … If current 'Core Team' is not up to the task - and I do not know all
> the details and did not tracked that case in any way - lets elect better
> 'Core Team' next time. …
>
>
> We cannot. Neither you nor I can vote, and that is exactly how it should
> be. For the benefit of outsiders who may read this: the reason should be
> clear from an earlier email.
>
> To everyone: the ease with which a person, group, or vehicle can be
> intentionally or unintentionally manipulated is simultaneously (a)
> deliciously amusing, which is inappropriate for a discussion that is so
> serious; and (b) SERIOUSLY alarming.
>
> Trials aside: on this occasion I was the manipulator, I was the liar.
> Judge me, if you like, but please do so elsewhere. It is not a
> freebsd-hackers@ issue. Aisle 6 is already a mess, I am guilty of (at
> least) lengthening the aisle, and someone must clean up the mess after
> us, so do not use this list to ask where else.
>
> I cannot emphasise enough the value of what Warner wrote on 1st January.
>
>
>

-- 
Mario.