Slow DNS (and host: connection timed out)

[Lokadamus]

David Naylor wrote:
> I don't quite understand your question.  See below for the network topology:
>
> ISP (host WinGate DNS, only proxy and socks connections allowed out)
>  |
>  | Wireless connection to my gateway
>  |
> Server (My gateway, running bind9 for internet domain and DNS caching, FreeBSD 
> 7.1p2)
>   > PCI D-Link GPlus wireless card for link to ISP
>   > PCI rl0 link to switch
>   
Ok, here is a realtek. That can sometimes make problems.
Can you change this network interface card?

>  |
>  | Switch
>  |
> My desktop (Client, FreeBSD 7.1p2, acts as bridge for laptop)
>   > PCI dc0 link to switch
>   > Built-in nfe0 link to laptop
>  |
> My laptop (Client, FreeBSD 8.0)
>   > Built-in bge0 link to desktop
>
> All the FreeBSD systems (server, desktop and laptop) experience the DNS 
> problem.