cvs commit: ports/java/netbeans Makefile distinfo
dougb at FreeBSD.org
Fri Dec 21 02:56:26 PST 2007
On Fri, 21 Dec 2007, Aryeh M. Friedman wrote:
> If you read the follow-ups you will see thats what I did. Since we
> clearly have very different styles of doing things let's make a deal I
> will not get your case and you will not get on mine.
It's tempting at this point to paint yourself as a victim/martyr and
thereby excuse yourself from trying to learn from your experiences.
I agree with you that some members of the various lists you've been active
on (including some committers) have reacted poorly to your posts, and that
is unfortunate. However I think it's also worth pointing out that your
style comes off as more than a little abrasive and demanding, and that is
not the way you want to be perceived as part of an all-volunteer
I think this post is a micro-cosmic version of the bigger picture, so let
me illustrate how we generally do things around here:
good: "I tried this version of the port and it fixed the compile issue on
my 5-stable machine. Thanks for working on this."
also good: "I tried this ... and ran into the following problems ..."
not good: "I haven't bothered to do anything to help myself, so I expect
you to be the font of all information before I lift a finger."
Please note that the last example is exaggerated a bit. :) I hope you get
my meaning however .... in this community we generally try to do things
for ourselves first, then offer help, information, etc. to others.
I think that you have some good/interesting ideas, and I hope that your
early experiences don't sour you on participating. At the same time, I'd
hate for what you have to say to be drowned out by the manner in which you
PS, and this really is a good thing for everyone to keep in mind ...
Before hitting send on any given message to a list, ask yourself if what
you have to say _genuinely_ adds value to the discussion that everyone
will appreciate, or if possibly your message could go just as a response
to the person.
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